Love & Money: Should You Go Dutch on Every Date?

In relationships, particularly for students, talking about money can be difficult. It need not be strange, though. Money speaks volumes whether your relationship is casual or committed.

The Payee

Usually the man, one person, pays. Traditionally. But Gen Z is reversing that. Many today would rather go Dutch—split bills, take turns, or pay depending on income.

Approaches to Deal with It

One buys lunch and the other coffee in turns. Maintains fairness without sacrificing vibes. Two big expenses split: birthdays, gifts, or trips? Talk through and make ahead plans.

Speak honestly

Ask, "Hey, I'm low on cash this week—can we do something basic?" A good partner won't object either.

Red flags

One person pays consistently; the other never offers. You find yourself under pressure to overspend.

Money starts to be a control problem.

Real Talk: Love is not Lavish beach walks, campus picnics, and movie evenings at home are among the most affordable, or free, dates available. It's about your connection, not about your spending level.

Ultimately, talking about money is not "unromantic." Actually, it's advanced. Create a relationship equal in effort, feelings, and expenses.